Celebrating has many benefits – it’s scientifically proven in terms of both brain chemistry and psychological benefits.
Not everyone will want to celebrate their relationship, and that’s OK. In February, we will speak to those who want to. Of course, there will also be posts about how to improve relationships (so follow us on our social media). However, you will have the opportunity to correct what needs to be improved so that you can celebrate later with a clear conscience 😉
Those who are in a loving relationship have enormous resources and opportunities. Being in a with someone is about having a safe place where you can celebrate that relationship and the other person, and you can be celebrated! It’s amazing, isn’t it?
The celebration may or may not be a big deal. Grand gestures, expensive outings or gifts, but also valuable at loud confession of how you feel, a deep look in the eye, or a feeling of security with the other person.
Celebrating is another way to express emotions and most often it gives us motivation to act. After all, every celebration usually has a purpose and is planned ahead.
For example, anniversaries are opportunities to cherish the love between two people. In today’s world, where many relationships are short. Remembering and marking the anniversary of getting to know each other or entering into a deeper relationship is an opportunity to say: “I still choose you.” It is often a renewal of the commitment we have to each other. Here we can create a chance to reflect on what brings joy and what is a challenge in your relationship.
When we celebrate, we remind some milestones in our relationship: the first kiss, the first trip together, buying a house, giving birth to a child… This allows us to reflect on how you and your connection have developed and how much you have achieved with your partner. Treat it as a reason for pride and satisfaction, but also let it remind you of the strength and resilience of your relationship.
As you may have read, the benefits of celebrating are enormous and I have not written about all of them here.
Below is my gift to your bond with your loved one.
Habits for a healthy relationship and celebration:
1. Notice and remember reasons to praise or compliment your partner. Usually, we can say or show these things right away, but sometimes it’s not appropriate. So, remember these things and talk about them at the right time.
2. Together, you can set a day a week or a month focused only on celebrating what was good and joyful. Plan this time and it will strengthen your connection.
3. Notice the effort your partner puts into something and acknowledge it out loud. For example, you can let him know that you noticed that, despite major or minor difficulties, he did something or brought something to a happy end – even though it would be a piece of cake for you.
4. Open questions will help you and the other person delve deeper into yourself and see what is not always visible, e.g. “What in this situation makes you proud of yourself?”, “What helped you stay calm in this situation, although it was easy to get angry and show it to everyone?”
5. Before you say the words “I’m proud of you,” let your partner feel it inside. It’s a great gift to make the other person’s self-worth grow from the inside.
6. If you have children, teach them the art of celebration, because not celebrating good things in childhood hinders the ability to “relax” and have fun in a relationship later, not to mention the effect on our self-love.
7. Ask your partner to celebrate something with you as often as possible. Success adequate to its celebration – always keep this in the back of your mind. For example: “Honey, I’m really happy with myself and I really want to tell you about it.”
Of course, not everyone feels the need to celebrate their relationship, and some couples may decide that, for example, the tradition of anniversaries does not suit them. If both people discuss it and agree – great, because you are on the same page.
Is there anything you can celebrate today or soon in your relationship? 😀
Or maybe you have a different opinion about celebrations altogether? I’d love to hear from her.
I’m here to help you.
Beata
